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Hungry or Not

on July 22, 2013

I’ve only really noticed this over the past few days and thought it was just because it was the weekend, but it’s happened today. I don’t know when E’s hungry.

I do over night. He gets squirmy, I wake up and feed him. 3-4 hours later repeat!

During the day it’s a different deal.

I don’t know!
I swear E doesn’t actually guve feeding cues anymore. Is that even possible?

He sucks his hand/thumb to soothe and explore so that doesn’t mean he’s hungry?

He rubs against my chest when he’s tired and half asleep so that doesn’t mean he’s hungry?

If I’m completely honest, I lost the ability to read his signs, or he stopped giving signs a while ago. I’ve simply been feeding him every 3 hours during the day unless he’s crying before that and I can’t calm him. It was working.

Until today.

I know it sounds more like schedule rather than on demand, which I don’t mean it to be, but at least he was happily feeding.

Until today!

The night was fine and normal, 4 hourly feeds until 4am, then a 3hr, a nice long joint nap and then…

He’d slept for more than 3 hours but less than 4 with no distinguishable cues. He fed a little bit when I put him to the breast and then stopped but would only cry when he was on or off.

So I tried on and off for a while where he’d feed for a bit, scream on and off, calm down and I’d try again. Three hours later, with no cues, and he fed fine when I put him to the breast.

Another 3 hours later (still no cues) and he feeds a bit, screams, screams when I take him away until he calms. Over half an hour after I stop trying he starts sucking my shoulder and then he feeds.

Has he been more like 4 hourly all day?

Should I ignore the 3 hour thing and wait for some sort of signal? What if that signal is him crying?

Sometimes he wakes up from a nap screaming. I realise he’s hungry but he’s been napping right beside me so where was the early sign of hunger?

I am so confused. Can a baby stop giving hunger cues? Is it ok to let him cry? Is he feeding more efficiently and then fussing because he wants to simply suck?

Earlier on he spat up twice after I fed him when he’d been crying, I take that to mean he was full and spat it back out. As a baby, E rarely spits up.

Help!

~ Persephone M

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10 responses to “Hungry or Not

  1. lynnc2010 says:

    Crying has always been the cue that I followed, to be honest. When I use the other cues they say to use, my kids never actually seemed to want to eat. I would use the cue that you are most comfortable with and seems the most accurate. For me that was crying. (Except at night time, during the night the kids would get squirmy and I would feed them, during the day though when they were squirmy it seemed they just wanted to play) Hopefully you find something that works!! Best of Luck!!

  2. mummyem says:

    It’s all about phases. As soon as you think you have them sussed out, the little monkeys move the goal posts and everything changes again. Don’t be disheartened by this, see it as the exciting next chapter. Your little man is getting bigger and his needs will grow with him. Just respond as you are: you’re doing a great job and he will soon shout if you get it wrong!! Xx

  3. mummyem says:

    It’s all about phases. As soon as you think you have them sussed, the little monkeys move the goal posts and everything changes again. Don’t be disheartened by this, see it as an exciting sign that your little man is getting bigger and his needs are changing. Just respond as you are, you’re doing a great job and he will soon shout if you get it wrong. Xx

  4. lynnc2010 says:

    I’ve nominated your for a Leibster Award! I hope you’ll accept it. http://lynncollins10.wordpress.com/2013/07/22/the-liebster-award/

  5. Rose says:

    I always found that if I wasn’t sure and I waited a little while, I could tell it was true hunger because instead of a grizzle I’d get a louder, higher pitched, more insistent and angry cry. Like a kind of ‘OMG mother are you going to feed me now or what??” noise. The rest of the time any tears seemed to alternate between tiredness and teething. It’s hard though – and just when you think you’ve got the hang of it, they decide to change when/how much/how often they feed!

    • Persephone says:

      I’m hoping he feeds better today. So far, yeah. Kinda. But now his night feeds are getting longer! I don’t like waiting, but I keep trying too soon and upsetting him! Oh the joys!

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