I’ve never secretive or embarrassed about how I got pregnant. I’ve never hidden my 3 years of trying to get pregnant, or that we used fertility treatment to finally get Elvis.
Obviously that’s the case – it’s the whole point of my original blog!
But it’s also true for the real world. I share links to this blog on my facebook and on my personal twitter. This has caused a few problems with people not seeing eye to eye with me regarding social media.
Today, a new mummy friend (with a tiny 9 week old!) asked how my labour was. To describe how I feel about my labour, I have to mention how I got pregnant as my feelings about both are so closely linked. So I said “We had fertility treatment.”
This mummy smiles and explains how they almost did. She had the HSG and the Sod’s law thing happened, they fell pregnant soon after.
I’ve never met a real life infertile. Although technically they did then conceive naturally.
But then the mummy sitting on the other side of me said that they, too, had fertility treatment. They needed to have clomid. The 3 of us all saw the same consultant! And this mummy’s little boy (about 2 months older than E) was conceived on fertility drugs.
We didn’t discuss it further. I might try and talk to her about infertility things, but at the moment I’m dealing with things, at the moment I’m just kind of happy to have finally met someone who has experienced similar things to me. My experiences, journey, struggle that none of my friends can ever truly imagine, has never been shared by me face to face. It made my TTC harder. My friends tried, but it’s not something easy to understand.
Even if it’s for the simple fact, as my friends have already started on their seconds, that I am still considered infertile so can’t just decide to have a second, there is someone I could turn to.
How lucky was I to sit next to those two mums today?
~ P
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