Persephone: Parent

A fine site

School Girl Mentality

on May 11, 2014

Only a few times over the past year have I felt awkward at baby groups or around baby mummies. It’s only been a few times where I’ve felt as if I’m back at school with the popular girls picking on the not so popular, cliques forming all around me and opinions being voiced without being thought through.  On even fewer occasions it has brought me to tears.

The question is though, is it them acting like school girls or is me and how I interpret others’ actions?

It’s the comments that imply breastfeeding is far superior than formula and the looks I’ve then seen on a formula feeding mummy’s face.

It’s the odd random comments on social media that could easily be a negative comment on how another mummy is living their life, perhaps only just surviving, but then feeling like you’re being criticised for your decisions.

It’s the group invites that didn’t include me – the summer picnics, the winter Santa outings, the new groups.

It’s feeling like you’re not good enough to be one of them, you’re not good enough to be in their conversations, to be included with them.

It’s the negative comments directed at a nearby mummy’s appearance.

It’s being made to feel bad about how you’re living your life, how you’re being a mummy by another mummy and them not even realising.

Nine months ago I thought I was having a wonderful time making all of these friends, but I haven’t made as many as I thought at all. In fact I have lost some.

How much of this is me being stuck in those memories of being at school and feeling everyone leave me out, talk about me and criticise me?

How much of it is them still being who they were in school, or who they wished they’d been?

How much of it is just picking the wrong acquaintances?

How much of it will rub off on Elvis?

~ P

2 responses to “School Girl Mentality

  1. Leanne says:

    You know I think this is just part of life in general as I feel the exact same way in the Cosplay community. Are they looking down on me or am I just feeling paranoid?

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

Baby in the Sunshine

British baby living in Dubai

Dallas Decoder

Between the Lines and Behind the Scenes of "Dallas"


Riding the wave that is life...wobbles and all

Snot On My Jumper

...and other tales of parenthood

Scarlett and Me

Fashion and beauty for mums and their babes by Faye Jacobs

Dear Mummy Blog

The travellings of Bella and her folks!

Motherhood - made up by me

My journey of motherhood of my daughter and how I make it all up as I go along

A new thing a day keeps the boredom away

My challenge for 2015: try something new every day for a whole year.

%d bloggers like this: